Fr. T.O. Sebastian
[dropcap]I [/dropcap]become angry when I am dissatisfied with some one or something. A strong feeling of
displeasure overwhelms me when I am angry. When I am angry my heart beat and blood
pressure increases. My face gets flushed with blood and the blood vessels seem almost to burst. I begin to fume and simmer. It means I am angry and at that moment if anyone crosses my path I may not spare him. I burst on him in the strongest terms. I am simply angry and I need to let the steam out and find relief. After my bout of anger, when I come back to my senses, I find that I have destroyed many things which I have carefully nursed at nurtured for years. I realize that uncontrolled expression of my anger has caused me a lot of damage. I have broken up furniture’s, T.V. sets and other useful and costly articles in the house. My closest relations and friends who witnessed my fit of madness now feel insecure in my company and feel ashamed of me. I have lost my name and esteem in their presence. I have damaged my property and more than that I have damaged my good name. I am left with nothing worthwhile. This is what anger uncontrolled has done to me.Like me there are others who experience anger in a similar way. A month ago, in the morning hours I drove into a neighbouring village to meet a worker to engage him for the day. I parked the car on the road and walked into the worker’s house. I met him and had a short discussion regarding the work to be done. Then as I got into the car and switched on engine, a young man rushed at the car and gave it a hard kick with his right leg. I was annoyed and angry. I asked him why he did that. He retorted: “Why did you park the car on the road? The whole village road belongs to me and no body can park his vehicle here”. Instantly the on-lookers intervened and told to keep quiet and run away lest this young may do you further harm. This young man had a quarrel at home and was in a bad mood. He has ranted and raved in anger. He has broken up many things at home and other things he has thrown out of the house. He was in a mood to challenge everyone for any reason or no reason.
The fact is that if anger cannot be controlled many things can go wrong. Anger is a momentary madness and if you do not control anger, anger controls you. Yet anger is a normal emotion. Anger will be there when the situation demands and it has to be expressed appropriately. The violent manifestation of anger is a sign of weakness rather than strength. If you want to control your life you need to control your anger. Therefore you need to express your anger in a healthy way. Realize your surcharge through games, sports or some other healthy activities. Get rid of your Irustrati6ns. You can always discuss and share your problems or make the other persons understand your problem rather than have an outburst. Often information and sharing can avoid a situation of confrontation and frustration.
Angry people should learn some mechanism to diffuse their anger and relax themselves. Do not take any serious decision in anger. Angry people first act and then think. It is difficult for you to retract the things you said or undo the things you did in anger. When your anger has subsided and you calmly review your words and actions in anger, you yourself will feel humiliated and your self esteem reduced. Therefore to safe-guard your name and honour, you need to control your anger and need to express your anger appropriately in a more civilized manner. December everyone has this emotion of anger. It is your choice to express it properly or not. If you choose to express it inappropriately, you yourself will become the victim of anger and not anyone else.
