Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers and winters off and there are very few who are interested in helping you find yourself. There is so much adventure in life to know what you are good at, infact it is actually a daring adventure, and the sooner we realise that, the quicker we will be able to design life. If you want to know life and what you are good at, you need to love many things. You cannot say that you don’t like potato when you have never tasted it.
From my life, I have learnt that if I want something, I have to make some noise and take chances in every opportunity that comes. To know what I am good at and to know myself I chose the path to take a chance as life is all about chance, like it is said opportunity comes only once, if you don’t take it than you will fall into someone else’s plan which won’t be much. If you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things how would you learn and accomplish your plan for the day? And how would you enjoy your life when you don’t know what you are good at and what makes you feel good. With the process of learning and experiencing there is so much to understand one’s desire in life. And if you are bored with life then you don’t have enough goals. It is said that the unexamined life is not worth living. When we examine our life and try to find out what is one’s destiny and then do it with the courage to take risks than there is nothing one cannot accomplish in life.
I have always wondered what I am good at, and never knew myself. I kept dreaming of becoming someone successful in life and I believe everyone wants the same but I never really know how. Though I had that one dream to achieve my many goals but it was just a dream. But it was only then I started to take chances and get involved in the adventure of life, since then I came to know myself better and now I am proud of myself. I went through every type of pain, family issues, trust issues, heartbreak, insecurities, depression, etc. I went through it all alone but never gave up. Learning is a never ending process but it is only when we get involved and experience it our self that’s the time when knowledge and realisation is gained about what is good and bad, making life easier in taking decisions. My life was in such a way that it didn’t please me, so I decided to create my life.
It is never easy to know our self as we are not born with all the knowledge and wisdom of the world until we have lived learning and making mistakes and enjoying the values. Don’t be too timid and delicate about your actions, by making mistakes we learn and learning is an experiment itself and the more one experiments, the better. Of course, not everyone learns from their mistakes but those who do are the ones who are precise in their thoughts and have a decision in life.
My dear grandmother would say that we are given a life and it is up to us whether we want a happy, good life or a sad, broken life because it is your life and the decision is yours. I was enlightened and took the courage to look at the optimistic side of life though I know that life is a complex matter. Imagine what life would be if we had no courage to attempt anything. Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself, dare to be free, dare to go as far as your thoughts lead, and do dare to carry that out in your life. I am not talking about being a spectator of life, I am talking about involvement. I am talking about involving yourself with life in such a way that you dissolve into it and find who you are, what you are good at and what’s right for you, even if it hurts some people you love.
There are many who are never willing to take the chance as they fear to take the risk. But when we don’t have the courage to take risk and face it how can a decision be made to move forward? Even a seed goes through tremendous struggle of losing itself – losing its safety and integrity and becoming vulnerable to every outside force that’s around. But without that vulnerability, without the breaking, without the shedding of the shell, life won’t spring up. We are very fond of judging others which is human’s nature – Yes, I know I am not perfect- and I don’t live to be, but remember, before you start pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean enough.
Every individual is created differently; no two persons are the same. Similarly what you are good at will differ from every person but every man’s life ends the same way. So, the only way to know what you are good at and who you are depends on how you lived and is living. Only you know the best of you. Never judge someone outwardly; we never know what’s inside.
Never stop dreaming, go forward, know the best of yourself, and make your dreams come true by facing the reality by knowing what you are good at and start the race. Create the best version of your life by having the confidence to take chances, courage to take risk, willingness to learn, experience and make decisions, get involved and strive for the crown and you’ll definitely sit on the throne. When you know what you are good at, you know what you want. And when you know what you want and want it bad enough, you will find a way to get it. As Knowledge is Power; Information is a Tool; Behaviour is Action; and Change is a Process.
Sashijenla Pongen
B.A 6th semester
Economics Honours
Modern College Kohima
